About counselling
“So often times it happens, That we live our life in chains, And we never even know, We have the key.”
There is no typical person for whom counselling can be helpful. The most important thing is whether or not you want to change and are open to looking at the poss
ibilities and choices you have to make.
At some point in your life you may feel stuck and want to evaluate where you are in your life, where you want to be and how to get there. Counselling offers this in a safe, supportive and non-judgemental space. This in turn allows you the opportunity to explore your thoughts and feelings and to make sense of your circumstances.
I will not give you advice but I will create a therapeutic relationship in which you as an individual or couple will find the capacity to use our relationship for your change, growth and personal development. You will have a greater understanding of yourself, your relationships and what you are experiencing. The relationship we establish will allow you to trust your inner resources and be able to face future life decisions and choices on your own.
Some of the issues that counselling can help you with are:-
- Anger – Do you find yourself shouting and then regretting it?
- Anxiety – Have you repeatedly cancelled arrangements because you are frightened?
- Low self-esteem/self-confidence – Is your life governed by feelings of self-hatred? Do you blame yourself unnecessarily?
- Trauma – Do you have reoccurring fears based on previous experiences?
- Stress – Have you found yourself thinking you have too much to do to start therapy?
- Depression – Is your mood low and need a helping hand to move on with life?
- Loss/bereavement – Do you now feel a massive void in your life and now have fluctuating emotions?
- Addiction – Are certain behaviours dominating areas of your life?
- Sex and porn addiction – Are you compulsively using these as a soothing tool?
- Illness – Are you or those close to you struggling to cope?
- Relationship issues – Do you find you are more distant from your partner and arguing more?
I believe it is important to find someone you connect with, someone you find empathic and able to trust. As a member of BACP and UKCP, I adhere to strict guidelines and a set of standards which ensure a responsible code of conduct with you, the client. 
Having become aware of the problems associated with the increase in availability and use of pornography over recent years, I have embarked on specialised training and completed a Level 5 Diploma in Sex Addiction Counselling. Having a greater insight into this particular addiction has proved useful in helping those with such compulsive behaviours as well as their partners affected by the discovery.
“When someone really hears you without passing judgement on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mould you, it feels damn good….When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements which seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens. How confusions which seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard”– Carl Rogers
